Back at the last job, when I had my own office, it wasn't an uncommon site for many of the staff members there to pop in just to hang out for a few minutes and talk about the Phillies. It also was not uncommon to have them come in to get some advice or simply have a sounding board. I usually enjoyed these conversations the most, because not only is it gratifying that people wanted my opinion, but it was great that people were so concerned with their own development and the development of their team that they wanted to be sure that they got it right.
One such conversation occurred during the beginning of my tenure there with one of the supervisors. We were just talking about leadership and management philosophies when I mentioned something about getting the managers to solicit feedback from their teams about their own performance. Her eyes widened when I said this.
"Really?" she asked. "We are going to have to ask them about our own performance?"
"Yeah," I replied. "We are only as good as our numbers and how our teams perceive us to be. If we aren't being effective, it doesn't matter how good of a job we think we are doing."
"I can already tell you that will be the hardest thing for me to do."
And so it is with most managers. Facing your team, hearing your inadequacies revealed for true, and taking an honest look at your shortcomings as a leader can be a daunting task for two reasons:
- They may not want to give you that information
- You may not want them to give you that information
They may not want to give you that information. Getting to the information is a trial unto itself. Rarely will a team leader simply be able to ask for an honest critique from their staff and get one. Too often, the team will fear some sort of reprisal, or may not want to hurt their supervisor's feelings, so any information that can be gleaned may be tainted.
There is always the stand-by of the anonymous "Suggestion" box. Personally, I think that these things are a lousy "solution" and a waste of time. Why? Have you ever thought that there may be a reason why there has to be a suggestion box? Its because people don't feel like they can approach the leadership team with their suggestions and comments! Don't you think that this is a larger cultural issue? Don't use this cop-out. You won't be doing yourself any favors.
A good place to start is a 360-degree review. It allows for team members to respond anonymously, but in a directed manner. It also shows that you, the leader, are actively looking for feedback about your performance.
This can backfire, however, if you don't share the results. Once you have collected the reviews, you should share those results with your team (unless, of course, some of the feedback is a little too personal...there is something to be said for not completely baring your soul). Share with them the major findings and your plans to make improvements. Not only will this show them that you are unafraid of their feedback and admitting your shortcomings, but it will also show that your willing to improve. Moreover, they can now be a part of the process; if they see you backsliding on your progress, they are more likely to call you on it. Everyone wins in this situation.
The next step is to continue building on this trust and communication by asking for more feedback, not just about your performance, but about the performance of the team. If you show that you are willing to take and use their suggestions, the two-way communication will grow, and that can only make everyone better at their jobs.
You may not want them to give you that information. The hardest thing a leader can do is look in the mirror and face their own inadequacies. It takes a brave person to actively seek out information reaffirming their insecurities. This is why most managers do not actively seek out this kind of feedback from their staff. The downside is that by insulating themselves with their position and not getting honest feedback, they are actually stunting their own growth. The real issue is that, as they are in a leadership position, they are actively stunting the growth of their team, department, division, etc.
A prime example of this is former President George W. Bush. It has been documented on numerous occasions that he was very insulated from the rest of the world, and thus his opinions and decisions were heavily biased towards a particular agenda. Not that we can lay all of our woes as a nation at his feet (we did elected him...kind of...), but there is obviously a connection between his performance as President and the overall state of the nation. What would the U.S. look like today had he sought out more differing opinions?
This is an extreme example, but it demonstrates the point. Leaders must seek out criticism and critiques of their performance, despite how uncomfortable that may be. Here is the best piece of advice I can give you to help overcome this challenge:
Get over it.
Managers, leaders, cannot be weak-willed. There is no room in true, authentic leadership for those who are weak of heart. We all have challenges that we must overcome, baggage that we carry with us that shapes our attitudes and decisions on a daily basis, but leaders must be able to take the heat. Leaders must be able to put all of that aside and make decisions that are in the best interest of their teams, of their organizations.
So take the dive. Make it a point to actively seek out input about your performance from all directions. You will be a better leader for it.